how to get what you want

The Art of Getting What You Want

Ah, that time of year again. Suddenly we’re reminded of all the things we didn’t do that we said we would and average [newly found] motivation levels spike to an all-time high. For the next two weeks most of us will find ourselves trading ginger bread for dumbbells and afterwork drinks for side hustles. New Years Resolutions.

Okay, new years resolutions are oh so typical, but you know what’s even more cringeworthy typical? Hating on new years resolutions.

Here’s the thing–I love new years resolutions. Why? Because it works…if you do it the right way. Let me stop you mid eye roll because I have actually had some pretty amazing successes in keeping my resolutions and reaching my goals. Excuse the bragging for a moment, but at 23 years old and fairly fresh from my undergrad, I’m living pretty much the life I always dreamed of. I live in one of the most expensive cities in the world, working my dream job, travelling (mostly for free), and nearly every single goal I set out for myself January 2017, I managed to achieve (*quickly pats self on the back).
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Now by no means are my life and I perfect. No, I don’t have it all figured out yet and I’m not Beyonce or Meryl Streep, but from what I’ve heard, I’m doing pretty okay!

SO how did I get here? Was it luck? Was I born rich? What’s the secret to getting exactly what you want? I’ve decided to share everything I’ve done and still consistently do to help you actually achieve your dreams and get you exactly where YOU want to be (because tis the season right?).

Let’s get started:


Okay so you wrote down a list of your goals and the types of things you’re going to accomplish this year. Great start, but that’s not enough. At the beginning of last year I separated my goals by category; from health and fitness to finance and social media goals, I wrote down where I wanted to be in each department by now. To make this process easier (and more fun) for you, I’ve created a fill in the blanks spread sheet chart to organize your 2018 goals you can download for free here.

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Next you need to turn these charted goals into a vision board. This step is essential for staying motivated and on track throughout the year. Choose photos to represent each goal that you can look at everyday on your vision board and be constantly reminded of what you’re truly striving for. For example, my 2017 vision board included photos of Europe (I made it my goal to travel around Europe before the year ended and I did!) and a beautifully decorated home office (I wanted to take the leap into going full time with my business and I did that too!). I also added a couple photos of some of my biggest role models to keep me inspired as well.

Print your photos and DIY your vision board (this is the fun part) so that you can hang it up somewhere where you will see it everything single day. Having a visual representation constantly in view will remind you always what you’re working towards and keep you motivated.
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Prioritize Your Relationships

They say it’s not what you know but WHO you know and that remains to be 100% accurate. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how hard you work, if you don’t have the network or good relationships, your shot at success will be significantly more difficult. If you’re a talented musician working hard in your room constantly writing songs and producing amazing music but you don’t network at events or you don’t engage on social media, don’t be surprised when you’re releasing your next track to the sound of crickets. Maybe you really want to move up the ladder at your corporate job but you don’t get along with your co-workers and your boss doesn’t really know you that well. Let’s work to change that!

Prioritizing networking and maintaining strong relationships is absolutely essential to achieving most good things and it has probably been the leading factor to my personal success so far. If you can, make it a point to check out a networking event at least once a month to build a few new connections. Challenge yourself to compliment every single person you interact with in a day. Surprise a co-worker or acquaintance with an extra coffee and croissant you picked up. Cold email and reach out to LinkedIn connects or brands you’re interested in partnering with or speaking to. Whatever you gotta do, put people first, make the value you offer known, and show that you care.


It’s more than obvious that to get that dream body, eating what you want all the time isn’t going to cut it. The same principle goes for everything else you want. To get that promotion, you’ll probably have to skip out on Tuesday’s afterwork cocktail. To save enough dollars to take your dream vacation to Greece next summer, your weekly UberEats dinners are going to have to stop. To finally launch that website or blog you’ve been planning for the last few months, you might just have to turn down some party invitations and cancel your Netflix subscription.

If you prioritize what’s really important to you (c’mon, overpriced pad thai or lounging in Santorini?) and sacrifice the things that don’t serve your long term goals, the road to your success suddenly becomes a lot clearer from obstructions.

Be Resourceful

Efficiency and smart investment are your secret weapons. I’ve heard a lot of people say they can’t do something because they don’t have enough money to yet or they’re ‘not ready to’ for whatever bullshit reason. But if you really want something, then why wait? Let’s figure out a way to get you there no matter what your current life situation is at the moment.
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An easy example: you want to start a YouTube channel but you don’t know how to edit video and you don’t have really good camera equipment. Putting your dreams on hold and waiting till you’ve got enough cash for an expensive camera you’ll barely know how to use is actually counter productive to me. Why not start now and ask a friend with the new iphone to help you film some videos. Start putting together a video content calendar and channel plan. Set up your account and create the graphics for your channel banner and branding. Check out some YouTube tutorial videos on how to edit videos with Premier or Final Cut or practice with iMovie. Or if it’s time and not money that’s your issue, considering hiring a freelancer or someone else to edit all your videos for you so you can focus on putting together really awesome content for your brand.

Most importantly, figure out a way to do or get what you want using the smartest investments and lowest costs to you. Back to YouTube, that would be the decision of either investing in high end camera equipment or investing in someone to help you create professional videos instead of spending all the time in doing it yourself. Maybe you’re launching a business or pop-up shop.Whether it’s DIYing decor and installations or sacrificing extra unnecessary expenses to stay profitable, being ultra resourceful is key when it comes to success.
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What are your goals for 2018? I’d love to know! Let me know in the comments down below or send me a DM on Insta!

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